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Sexuality-Letters to My Daughter

August 8-14, 2016 (Formally week 27)

My Dear Daughter,

I want you to know that even though your mother and father have been together since 1989, that we did not marry each other for what’s between our legs but rather, for what’s between our ears and what’s within our hearts.

The brain is the greatest sex organ of all. Yes, it’s true that there is such a thing as animal magnetism, physical attraction and chemistry. But I have come across many people who just by gazing at them, gave me tingles … Until they opened their mouth.

If either your father or I had identified as LGBTQ, we would have still married. Never assume that just because someone presents under one label that they do not fit into others as well. Do not limit yourself or others with narrow judgements and one dimensional thinking. Interesting people are multi-dimensional beings.

Søren Kierkegaard said, “To label me is to negate me” and it’s for this reason that I have never felt comfortable attaching myself to a specific label. But labels aren’t used just to define, but to identify. Every being deserves to be recognized and respected and if having a label makes that easier, then so be it. As a woman, I have been labeled many things in my life and some have fit and some have not. Maybe labels are tools others use to relate to each other versus tools we use to relate to ourselves. The label I am most proud of is, Mom!

I want you to know that your father and I love you unconditionally. We support you in choosing to love whomever you love regardless of religion, skin color, socio-economic status or gender identification. I do have a selfish preference that you involve yourself with creative, educated, thoughtful people with a penchant for kindness, but other that, here’s is a list of the five things that are more important to us than labels.

We want the person you choose to be intimate with or love to:

1. Practice safe sex.
2. Respect you and your body.
3. Take care of your heart
4. Have supportive friends and family who will accept you for who you are.
5. Be honest.

Labels are complicated. Love is simple.